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Alcoholism
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Alcoholism is a term with multiple and sometimes conflicting definitions to describe the detrimental effects of alcohol intake.
In common and historic usage, alcoholism refers to any condition that results in the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages despite health problems and negative social consequences. Modern medical definitions[1] describe alcoholism as a disease and addiction which results in a persistent use of alcohol despite negative consequences. In the 19th and early 20th centuries, alcoholism, also referred to as dipsomania[2] described a preoccupation with, or compulsion toward the consumption of, alcohol and/or an impaired ability to recognize the negative effects of excessive alcohol consumption.
Although not all of these definitions specify current and on-going use of alcohol as a qualifier for alcoholism, some do, as well as remarking on the long-term effects of consistent, heavy alcohol use, including dependence and symptoms of withdrawal.
While the ingestion of alcohol is, by definition, necessary to develop alcoholism, the use of alcohol does not predict the development of alcoholism. It is estimated that 9% of the general population is pre disposed to alcoholism based on genetic factors. The quantity, frequency and regularity of alcohol consumption required to develop alcoholism varies greatly from person to person. In addition, although the biological mechanisms underpinning alcoholism are uncertain, some risk factors, including social environment, stress,[3] emotional health and genetic predisposition, have been identified.

     The definitions of alcoholism and related terminology vary significantly between the medical community, treatment programs, and the general public.
Medical definitions
        The Journal of the American Medical Association defines alcoholism as "a primary, chronic disease characterized by impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with the drug alcohol, use of alcohol despite adverse consequences, and distortions in thinking."[4]
The DSM-IV (the standard for diagnosis in psychiatry and psychology) defines alcohol abuse as repeated use despite recurrent adverse consequences.[5] It further defines alcohol dependence as alcohol abuse combined with tolerance, withdrawal, and an uncontrollable drive to drink.[5] (See DSM diagnosis below.)
According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, alcoholism is the popular term for alcohol dependence.[5] Note that there is debate whether dependence in this use is physical (characterised by withdrawal), psychological (based on reinforcement), or both.


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           Dipsomania is a term which describes an uncontrollable craving for alcohol. The etymology breaks down as "compulsive thirst," but the term when used in practice is reserved primarily related to the uncontrollable consumption of alcohol. As a result, a dipsomaniac is a person in whom this condition appears in the form of a physical and psychological craving for ethyl alcohol, especially liquor.
The term "dipsomania" appears to predate "alcoholism".[1] In European languages, the standard medical term dipsomania is unchanged from one language to the next. A search of MedicineNet[2] for dipsomania returns "dipsomania" (an abnormal craving for alcohol)"; a search of MediLexicon[3] for dipsomania returns "a recurring compulsion to drink alcoholic beverages to excess". Searching for dipsomania on HealthLine[4] returns articles on alcoholism. There appears to be no real difference between the definitions of dipsomania and alcoholism, although in psychiatric circles, the etiology of this phenomenon does differentiate itself from true alcoholism.
Amongst people struggling with this affliction, the term dipsomania is almost identical to alcoholism. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes alcoholics thus: "We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control. All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but such intervals, usually brief, were inevitably followed by still less control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization."[5] This description of the alcoholics' struggle is almost identical to the description in the first paragraph. In the first chapter of AA, the doctor describes the life of the alcoholic: "After they have succumbed to the desire (i.e. the "lust for alcohol") again, as so many do, and the phenomenon of craving develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over...[6]
There appears to be no cure for dipsomania (or alcoholism), with the exception of abstinence from alcohol of any kind. Dipsomanics tend to be social, outgoing individuals, who find an unusual phenomenon overtakes any will not to drink, and the compulsion becomes so overwhelming that it cannot be stopped in many cases. The dipsomaniac (or alcoholic) will fall prey to this compulsion and eventually drink until blackouts, seizures, or even death, occurs.







  The one thing I've learned In order not to get resentments I must think it out "How does this effect me" "Why do I even care what your thoughts are" I did give you an apology sort of indirectly and if you didnn't read it I'm sorry.

Gary
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Gary25  

Home Or Lost

I stand here alone thinking of a place gone Past. Never thinking that I have been away so long.

Its a strange feeling to know your home is no longer yours but now some others.

I can't go back, but I still wonder if I would.

I was always cold on that hill but my heart was warm.

My Dog was born there but now he too is gone Killed in the Night by a train going some where I have never been.

My heart got broke but I did not cry.

I thought I was happy before I really was. Now I wonder can I be again.

My heart calls out for me to follow the sun. But I don't remember where it is, that I was going before I stopped here

Am I happy here, I think so but I've been wrong before! 

 By L.J. James 

 

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yea and your the type of person that throws a baby in the trash because it has autISM ,or diabeties,look at your self your just full of fear

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You are right concerned girlfriend,

only 10% of the problem is the adiction,40%spiritual,50%

ATTITUDES. When you go thru a 12 step program for any thing you will find as you know that one must truley and HONESTLY think of your own defects of character and change your thought process.Only then can one give love one must love ones self 1 st 

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a word to all recovering from anything

Thank you mom e of 4,

   I have found that if I do six simple things every day I have a very good chance of not drinking

1) drop to your knees in the morning asking for help ( humble) 

2) call your sponser

3) Talk to another drunk

4) go to a meeting/read literature

5) at the end of the day thank your higher power

 6) write/review a gratitude list 

I found this is the way to keep it simple and grow spiritually

and finally get back to myself for what I am.This will also be my #1 thing in my life sobriety above any thing

Thank you for your post

Keep it green 

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                           EFFECTS OF TEEN DEPRESSION 
 
 
 
     Perhaps the most devastating blow on human health has been dealt by modern lifestyles. What is more alarming is that changes in society and the overall approach towards issues like life and success has had a great negative impact on our children. There are now more instances of teen depressionthan ever before. 
      Besides primary needs of food, clothing and shelter, humans have emotional needs that must also be met. In traditional communities these basic needs were met naturally. Many traditional societies had a perfect system in place for providing community support to children where parents were too busy or out to work for survival. With more nuclear families and the mad rush to succeed in material terms at all costs has led to a situation where the emotional needs of children are neglected. Child depression is a natural fall out from such indifference and ignorance and the issue has now become a reality that modern society has to grapple with.
        Sometimes, behavioral changes in a teenager are ignored as parents feel that a problem child is acting out with a purpose of gaining attention or making a statement. Such instances can often be misunderstood and the fact that a child is suffering from teen depression can be missed. Teen depression is a legitimate concern and a condition that is as important as any other physical ailment. It has serious consequences and is prone to recur and continue into adult life. Some of the immediate behavioral changes that you may see in your child if he/she is prone to depression are:
Recreational drugs - Where parental support is not forthcoming, teens normally tend to look for relief from prolonged sadness and anxiety from inappropriate sources. Substance abuse like drugs and alcohol are common among depressed teens.
        Lack of confidence - Lack of self esteem is a prominent sign of depression. It can lead to an increase in negative feelings and self criticism.
Eating disorders - Depression can lead to binge eating, obsessive dieting, anorexia (prolonged eating disorder due to loss of appetite) or bulimia (guilt and self condemnation after binge eating).
Low academic performance - Low grades in school are not only a sign of depression but also a result of teen depression.
         Behavioral changes - Depression often leads teenagers to indulge in risky activities that cause injury or death. Teenagers tend to come to terms with depression by inflicting pain on them. Cutting, burning and banging the head against walls are common examples.
Decisions - It becomes increasingly difficult for depressed teenagers to handle everyday decisions and pressures.
       Suicide – Suicide is the ultimate effect of a prolonged feeling of despondency. By the time depression leads to a suicidal tendency, the child has probably woven a web of hopelessness that refuses to go away. Unable to get out of it, the only solution that comes to mind is that of ending life. The first indication that suicide is being contemplated comes from talks of death. Immediate teen depression help should be sought even at the slightest hint.
         Modern society has evolved in a way that individualism has gained precedence over everything else. It has become literally impossible for people to understand the importance of the wider community. It is high time that we all got out of this self centered approach and provide the emotional support that our children need. 
 
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Native Remedies http://www.nativeremedies.com/mindsoothejr-teen-childhood-depression-anxiety.shtml 


References:
http://depression.emedtv.com/teen-depression/effects-of-teen-depression.html  
http://depression.lifetips.com/tip/112321/coping-with-depression/coping-with-depression/effects-of-teenage-depression.html 
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Hope this might help'

    Have you heard of modest needs

    http://www.modestneeds.org/ 

Good luck

Gary 

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Hello everyone,

I have recently posted on my blog a good article "About depression" The articletells you as a parent what to watch for.Come by and leave a comment.

Gary 

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PARENTAL INTERVENTION - DEPRESSION IN TEEN GIRLS

 
Having a girl at 19 myself I found  that it's good to take notice way before that age
Start to notice her attitudes when she starts with boy's I found this to be a tough age.
      With rates of child depression and teen suicide soaring, there is a dire need of understanding what is happening with young boys and girls. 
Parenting is not limited to providing material comforts and opportunities for learning. It also involves providing emotional support to children when they need it. Many teenagers break down during the college days. But the roots of such an incident are actually laid well before that age. 
Teenagers go through a tough phase when they discover their real self and come to terms with their position in society. This is irrespective of caste, financial status or brilliance in a particular field. Parental intervention at this stage in helping the teenager to come to terms with reality can play an effective role. Support and guidance needs to come when the teenager begins to contemplate of certain issues. If support is not made available in the initial stages, it is likely that the situation may develop into one of clinical depression or denial. Later, parental teen depression help may not be sufficient and professional help may need to be sought. 
There is a subtle difference between teen depression in girls. Depression in boys is mostly dependent on moods.  Girls tend to be more prone to depression due to the typical manner on which females process information and react to stimuli. Parents need to guide their daughters to enable them to critically analyze the modern rules, some of them unspoken, of adolescence. 
Girls are likely to be more emotional than boys. While boys tend to be casual about relationships that they develop with the opposite sex, girls tend to be more emotionally involved. This results in a disturbed state of mind when there is a break-up. A friendly relationship with your daughter can help you explain to her about the various emotional upheavals you went through during your teenage, only to emerge happy and satisfied with your spouse. 
It is difficult to generalize but mothers are better equipped to build up a friendly relationship with girls as they are likely to be open with mothers than with fathers for obvious reasons. However, close relationships between father and daughter is not an uncommon phenomenon. The best way to develop a good relationship with the daughter is through patient listening. Talking about the various events at school, the pressures, stress and other events without being judgmental can help you identify early signs of depression. Try to respect the child’s privacy and do not crowd her with too much inquisitiveness. Try to identify with her problem and let her know that you understand how difficult it can be. Also mention that all problems have a solution and they can be managed and solved. 
An interesting study reveals that girls who smoke are at a 40% higher risk of developing depression. There is a great likelihood that smoking is an effort to self-medicate, just as drugs and alcohol, to get over depressive feelings.
Teenagers are very frugal in displaying their fears, sadness and resentment. It is only a keenly observant parent who can notice subtle signs of an impending problem. While it is important for parents to learn about the risks and symptoms of teen depression in girls, they also need to learn about how to deal with it head-on.
 
 
 
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Hello Jewah,Make a post and say hi to us,let us know whats on your mind

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Hello TRI A FROG?

Welcome post something and tell us about your self.

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Hello Nicole,

I don't know what's driving me today but I feel I must introduce myself and offer help as much as I can Welcome, Add to your post to let us know a little about you

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HI Kevin,

Welcome try posting your blog to see how people might be able to help

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Hi Patty ,

Welcome tell us how we might help as much as we can.

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If there was no struggle, then there will be no life?

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That's exactly how I feel. I get gratitude by helping other as much as I can at this moment thank you

Gary 

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During rough Times and your Emotions


The first lesson in managing emotions is to understand that emotions are inner feelings that arise and that there is nothing right or wrong about them. It is not right to be judgmental about even negative feelings. Emotions have to be differentiated from feelings, moods and disposition. Feelings are subjective and do not take into account the objective reality. Disposition refers to a durable and differentiating characteristic of a person. Mood is an emotional state somewhere between an emotion and a disposition. 

Psychologically, emotions are complex responses of the nervous system, negative as well as positive, to external or internal stimuli. They are also considered to be a cognitive process. A brain that lacks emotions is considered to be incomplete. Dealing with your emotions and managing them is an essential constituent of social life. A willingness to give them a positive direction can help you in becoming a better person.
 
The primary step towards managing emotions is to learn how to deal with stress. Moderate levels of stress are good since it motivates and challenges. But stress that builds up and reaches intolerable levels can affect performance at work places and health. Normally I would drink

Understanding other people’s emotions (something we can't due is change people, places or things) helps in dealing with emotions. It is however essential to understand your own emotions as well. There is an old saying, “count till ten before you get angry”. That counting is actually meant to let you think and identify the reason behind the anger. How does this effect me

Try to find what your feelings mean. If you are in fear, try to find ways that will make you feel safe. If you are sad, identify the cause and look for ways to comfort yourself. You may need help from a friend or your sponser and group or a counselor. 
If you are angry, identify the cause and fix it. Your anger could be due to another issue or an earlier bad experience. Go directly to the person you are angry with and try to settle the issue. This becomes easy if you try to understand the other person’s point of view. Or else, try arguing with you own self to see if it really matters.
If you are happy, make the most of it without getting complacent of your duties. At the same time mark the situation so that you can recreate it.

Being aware of the emotions that you are undergoing and the reasons behind those emotions can help you control it. Express your feelings to someone you trust and you may get a completely opposite assessment of the situation. The underlying idea is to evaluate emotions before they get the better of you. If you can redirect your emotion to a positive one, you may find that what you were contemplating was futile and unjustified. Emotions are strong feelings that take place within the mind and can be influenced by individual bias. Objectivity and a positive mental attitude are actually the best ways of managing emotions.I have given you a link to ask some experts to help you along.
 
 
Gary 

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This is the 1st time I have even looked for a grant Don't believe 99% of the ads on the web. What I am going to try is searching out the organazations themselves.I will keep you informed 

Gary 

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